Most successful leaders have figured out that their mere presence can be intimidating. Even a random comment can take on 10X more meaning when “the boss” says it.
Like it or not, our brains are extremely sensitive to status and rank. Sometimes, it’s not YOU that people are responding to. It’s your role and your level compared to them.
So how do you overcome this to build or rebuild trust with the people you want to uplift?
…[Continue Reading]I hope you are well. If you or people you care about are experiencing isolation or anxiety, here’s something I trust you’ll find helpful.
This includes a brief but profound piece written by Danaan Perry about accessing the best of yourself during transition. It seems incredibly timely, right now. This is Chapter 22 of my book, Free the Genius.
…[Continue Reading]Things can go from hopeful to hateful in no time.
You’ve been watching it unfold in front of you. It just takes one person to show they’re anxious, to worry out loud, to take a hard line, or to lose their cool.
When they do, it’s easy for others to join them in a downward spiral. You’ve probably been on both sides of this lately. So have I.…[Continue Reading]
I don’t know about you, but I’ve felt the emotional temperature of the world elevating daily. In the US, things have changed rapidly in the past 10 days. I’ve definitely been grabbed by my own emotions a few times.
What are you doing to stay at your best? Are you comfortable leading through change of this unprecedented speed and magnitude?…[Continue Reading]
A respite from the many coronavirus messages you’ll read today…
My Uncle Andy was one of those larger than life characters. Everyone knew him. And as far as I could tell, pretty much everyone loved him.
I had great experiences with him while he was living. Yet, there’s something I learned from him after he died that I lean on most often.
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There she stood, exposed like few humans ever are.
On September 16, Kate Flannery was of the 12 contestants who began Dancing with the Stars latest season. Kate, best known as Meredith from The Office, is a friend of Brenda’s and mine, so we’ve been lucky to witness her experience up close.
Kate’s previous dance experience is mostly at wedding receptions. Yet, with 8 MILLION people watching on live TV and with only a few weeks of dance lessons under her belt, she stood ready to dance a very intricate cha-cha routine on an enormous ballroom stage. 8 million self-appointed dance experts waited, ready to judge her.
To add to the pressure, three professional dance judges would evaluate her dancing while the entire audience listened in. And one of those judges is known for crushing people with extremely harsh, critical feedback.…[Continue Reading]
Spark 1: A young boy’s generous gift to his dad.
Brayden was seven years old in 2009 when his dad, Scott, was deployed for the 8th time in Brayden’s life and his third time to Afghanistan. Scott was a Green Beret, and Brayden was (naturally) fearful for his dad’s safety.
Anyone would be fearful.
But Brayden did something NOT just anyone would do…something generous. As his dad was preparing to deploy, Brayden gave him his treasured “magic silly band” bracelet with the instructions, “Don’t take it off, okay Dad? It’ll keep you safe.”…[Continue Reading]
Underdogs: sometimes it’s not just a metaphor.
A few weeks ago, our dog, Lulu, got puppy-shamed…if there is such a thing. Don’t worry. She’s still as joyful as ever.
But the incident actually says as much about the leaders around you (and about you) as it says about dogs. It serves as a humorous but cautionary tale of how we unintentionally squelch each others’ voices. This one’s not immediately obvious, so it’s a 201 level idea.
Understanding what happened to Lulu will help you better take life by the leash and build your leadership pedigree. (Sorry, but when a puppy pun presents itself, you have to grab it by the collar.)…[Continue Reading]
A few years ago, I witnessed a dear friend (let’s call him Todd) living through the most difficult experience of his life. Over many months, his situation got so bad it seemed almost inescapable to him. The challenges he faced would make even the toughest among us blanch.
At one point, he was ready to just check out, not in a healthy way. Standing in his shoes, I could understand why.…[Continue Reading]
The recent launch of my new book, Free the Genius, was a tutorial for me in how to stretch beyond old limits to my own “big next.”
If you’re building something new and different, let these universal rules-of-the-road help you stay on track and in motion.
What is a “big next”? It’s that idea, dream, or contribution that you must bring to life. It may feel impractical and difficult to achieve . . . yet, it won’t leave you alone until you begin. It’s your big next.
Here are five principles I just learned and re-learned that you can apply to bring your big next to life:…[Continue Reading]
